One thing that feminism did is take away various and sundry male places. This is both good and bad. On the one hand, one would be hard pressed to make the argument that equally qualified women should not be admitted to the same universities or given the same jobs as men. And hey, let’s be honest: How boring would college have been without chicks? Still, what man hasn’t wished he could work out without the distraction of women at least once? What man doesn’t want to get away from the ladies from time to time? While private clubs can still exclude women, one doesn’t have to put up a “NO GURLZ ALLOWED” sign on a tree house to get a little bro time in, away from the squawking of females.
Barbershops are a great place to be a man. In fact, you’re going to know that you’re in a barbershop because you’re mostly surrounded by men. One key way to know that you’re in a salon and not a true barbershop is if there are women there who aren’t escorting a four-year-old boy. What are you going to get out of hanging out in the barbershop? Well, mostly a place for mindless chatter about sports, your job or anything else that pops into your mind. Read yourself some men’s magazines, watch what’s on the television, gab about whatever, or just sit back and enjoy some comfortable silence.
Dive bars are a tricky thing to find in this day and age. Hipster urbanites have made a lot of headway into burning down the dive bar. But you’ll know you’re in the Real McCoy when all you see are blue-haired old ladies and dudes wearing Benevolent Order of Elks trucker caps non-ironically. Women tend to avoid dive bars, especially the kind that are going to have you ruminating on your recent romantic failings on a night when you’re trying to drink them off your mind. They’ve also got great tunes on the juke for you to ruminate over whatever is bothering you.
A lot of guys are into the MMA craze. There’s just one problem with this: You’re almost certainly going to be the guy who gets paired with a chick for a matt roll when there’s not gender balance. Boxing gyms operate in a wholly different way. Your training is largely individual and when you do get down to scrap, you’re going to do it with another dude of roughly your weight and experience. Not only is great physical exercise, it’s also a great way to network (you gain a lot of respect and give a lot of respect after you’ve spent time in the ring with a another guy) and you’re going to gain a huge amount of confidence.
Fraternal orders do have a bit of “NO GURLZ ALLOWED” stink, but you aren’t going to find a lot of childish tomfoolery here. Fraternal orders offer a number of attractive perks. First, you can often get dirt cheap drinks at the lodge. Second, you can network with other men in the community — often powerful men who can help you to further your career as someone once helped them to further their own. Finally, fraternal orders often donate large sums of money to charity. Fewer things feel good quite like doing good.
You aren’t going to get away from the ladies at the local cycling club. But you might find it a prudent way to get some exercise (and some man time) by joining a club that is explicitly or implicitly is for men. Think things like flag football (you aren’t going to find a lot of chicks there) or segregated sports (men and women might both play basketball and volleyball, but they rarely do so together). Get to know some guys, get some exercise and get away from the women for a couple of hours every week.